How to Ask Your Lover for a Threesome

It’s every man’s fantasy… and a deep desire of any women, too! Embarking on the journey of exploring a threesome can be an exciting and playful addition to your intimate relationship. After all – who wouldn’t want to be the meat in a spicy sandwich!

While you may have joked about it in the past, bringing up the topic of actually having a REAL LIFE threesome requires finesse, open communication, and a shared understanding. Here are some tips to help you ask your partner about the possibilities...

Establish Open Communication

We know we bang on about communication a LOT at Sinful, but it really is key! Before broaching the topic of a threesome, establish a foundation of open communication with your partner, and create a safe space where you both feel comfortable expressing desires and concerns without judgment.

Choose the Right Moment 

Timing is everything when it comes to introducing new and potentially sensitive topics. Pick a moment when you and your partner are relaxed and in a positive frame of mind. Avoid bringing it up during an argument or when either of you is stressed. A playful and light-hearted atmosphere can make the conversation more comfortable.

Share Your Desires and Fantasies

Start the conversation by sharing your own desires and fantasies. This creates an environment of reciprocity and encourages your partner to open up about their own desires. Frame it as a way to deepen your connection and explore new dimensions of intimacy together. 

Gauge Their Comfort Level

As you discuss desires and fantasies, pay close attention to your partner's reactions. Look for cues in their body language and verbal responses. If they seem receptive and engaged, it may be an opportune time to gently introduce the idea of a threesome. If there's hesitation, it might be wise to revisit the conversation at another time.

Be Playful and Curious

Approach the topic with a playful and curious mindset. Use phrases like, "What if we tried..." or "Have you ever wondered about..." to keep the conversation light. This encourages exploration without pressuring your partner, allowing them to express their thoughts and feelings openly.

Address Concerns and Set Boundaries

Discuss any concerns or reservations either of you may have. Be open to addressing fears, insecurities, or potential challenges that may arise. Setting clear boundaries and establishing rules beforehand is crucial to ensure a positive and consensual experience for everyone involved.

Respect Their Response

Regardless of your partner's response, it's essential to respect their feelings and decisions. If they express hesitancy or discomfort, drop the topic for the time being. Pressuring or attempting to persuade them can lead to resentment and harm the trust within your relationship.

Remember, the key to successfully discussing a threesome is maintaining open communication, trust, and mutual respect. Keep the conversation playful, light, and considerate of your partner's feelings. Whether you decide to explore this desire or not, the process of discussing it can bring you closer as a couple.